Boni's Article in Enjoy Whole Health - Nov/Dec '05 issue:

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

      Of course we have all heard the phrase, Mirror, Mirror on the Wall who’s the fairest one of all?

      What we are really asking?

     We are asking for a comparison of ourselves to others to see who is the best.

     Now let’s bring this into today’s understanding of how we compare ourselves to others.

      You look into someone else’s eyes (mirror, mirror) and you believe you know what they are thinking.

     In truth you only know what is being reflected back to you.

Let me give you an example.

     You’re out grocery shopping and you bump into someone with your cart. You look up and the person has a most unpleasant smile on their face. You immediately think that person believes that you are irresponsible. Your mumble your apologies and move on fast.

     Because of a past experience, you feel shame for bumping into them. This shame keeps you from apologizing without judgment about what you did and reinforces your belief that you are irresponsible.

     If you did not have the shame, the scene may look like this:

¨      You bumped into someone

¨      you smile to them 

¨      apologize

¨       explain you got distracted by a product on the shelf

¨      They in return comment on how easy it is to be distracted between checking their list, looking for certain products, and ignoring their cell phone.

¨      You go on your way

     In the first experience, the exchange haunts you for a week. You tell friends about the horrible person in the grocery store. You might even go as far as being nervous or frightened to venture into that store again.

     In the second experience, you forget about it immediately. Possibly in your exchange with the person you find you were looking for the same product and exchange recipes or personal tips about the product. In other words you see divine similarities between yourself and the other person, not the judgmental self that has to find fault. Later you tell your friends, I ran into the nicest person at the grocery store yesterday. I invited her to our next drumming circle.

     When the shame and past experiences are cleaned up, we no longer look at others with the comparison to find who is better, best or fairest of all in the mirror, mirror. We now look in the mirror to see the best inside ourselves and match it up with the best inside the other person.

     There are many ways to clean up the impact of past experiences. Regressions with Hypnosis, Akashic Record Consultations, Reiki, Access, Counseling, Trance Dance, Shamanic Journeys, Manifesting Your Life Course, The Results Course, using the worksheets in Taking out the Trash book, focusing on something you want in your life consistently for over 21 days, Psy-K, Joy Breath, Awakenings, Young Essential Oils, and many more. The only requirement all these processes start with is:

1. Your awareness that you want your experiences to be different 

    

2. Your willingness to do what it takes to complete the process that you choose

    

3. You follow through with the appointment, homework, etc.

    

     Life can be any way you want it – make the choice now.